Indian weddings look the most beautiful with the three-day function, pretty clothes, naach-gaana and lip-smacking food. However, what goes behind all the grand celebrations is only known to the ladkiwalas family. Parents put their hearts, souls, minds and their entire lives savings into making their daughter’s wedding a hit. Still, some families come forward with unjust demands, and parents happily oblige. However, an Indian bride decided to speak up for herself and her family after the groom’s family made their shocking demands.
Bride shares the groom’s family’s unjust demand and expectation of getting shawls and sagan lifafa (money envelopes) for every guest
Recently, a girl took to the discussion platform Reddit and shared the unjust demands her groom’s family had put up in front of her parents. In a world where it is shown that dowry doesn’t exist, there are people who still come up with shocking demands from girls’ parents in the name of respect for the cakewalks. The bride, who is soon going to get married, revealed that the groom’s family wants her family to bear the entire wedding cost.
However, they told her parents that if they would host the wedding in their city then they would contribute 50-50, which is again a shocker. Not only this, the bride revealed that the groom’s family also expects her parents to gift shawls and an envelope of money to every guest from their side.
The bride further, in her long post, revealed that they had done the same during the Roka ceremony, where her family presented sagan to every person from the groom’s side. The bride further shared that it doesn’t feel right as the groom’s family keeps asking for money and gifts at every function. She added that when she voiced her opinion during the roka, the groom took his parents’ side instead of her. She asked netizens’ opinions on how to navigate through the situation.
Netizens react to the bride’s situation
As soon as the post was uploaded, netizens flooded the comments section. One user pointed out on how the gifts and expectations never stop and wrote, “Rokas are held in the gurdwara to avoid all this gift giving bullshit. I really don’t understand the “humare mein aise hota hai” mindset. If you have a relationship and want to give a gift then great, but why force it? Also you guys will have to put your foot down, simply let it be known that there will be no more lifafas as they were already done. Are you two going to have a milni? More gifts/expectations. It never stops until someone vocalizes theyre not comfortable.”
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Another one called it ‘modern day dowry’ and penned, “This is what modern day dowry is. It will continue on to each of you childresn births and their birthdays and your godh bharaii etc. you can’t stop it. You can either break up, or accept the inequality.” Another netizens commented, “He took his parent’s side during the roka ceremony. He is providing you a glimpse of life after marriage.”
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